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as the holiday approaches, you are likely to receive many invitations for social activities. But holiday parties can be a bit overwhelming, even for extroverts, because we're a little worried about having to deal with people we don't know very well.
"holiday party... "Let insecurity start flying, from our ability to talk to you about spinach in your teeth," says life coach Kelsey Murphy. Think about our hair, our clothes, our intelligence, our choice of career path - we'll make a second guess at all of this before we put on high heels and walk out of the house. "
but even if you prefer to watch Netflix rather than try to chat with others, you don't have to be afraid of these holiday parties: they may be interesting opportunities to meet interesting people, or even become one or two new friends. Here is a step-by-step memo of your confidence in the cocktail party.
credit card: lacheev / iStock / gettyimages Credit: johanjk / iStock / gettyimages to keep you from getting bogged down in the inferno of boring gossip, Murphy suggests making a list of questions you can ask people you meet. " To be a good conversationalist is to have real interest in others. "When we step into other people's world and understand them, we have to let go of ourselves," she said. Instead of asking, "what do you do?" Try "why do you like your job best" or "how do you do it?" If the best question you can think of is the old question, "where are you from?" Murphy said, keep asking and go deeper. "How does it feel to grow up there?" he asked. Or "what industry?" "Let people have space to talk about themselves and let others really care about themselves," she suggests. You will be surprised to find that it makes a person feel so wonderful. " The credit: fradan / iStock / gettyimages when entering the room, make sure your face reflects the positive, friendly and approachable side. Keep smiling on your face. Keep your eyes and eyebrows slightly raised, "McCurdy suggests. She even suggested auditioning her "expression" before the party so you can see how subtle changes in your expression make you more approachable. Small adjustments, especially smiles, can have a big impact. Credit: asife / iStock / gettyimages " it's perfectly acceptable for the bartender to make your "mocker" look like a cocktail so you don't look like a party junkie, "McCurdy said. By using non-alcoholic beverages alternately with cocktails, you can keep your head clear and integrate with others. " Credit: Vasyl dolmatov / iStock / gettyimages Credit: Africa studio / Adobe stock Advertisements " if you have only one conversation at night, but the conversation is deep, meaningful and valuable, then your holiday party may be better than most people, "Murphy said. Don't get addicted to the need to be part of every big group conversation. You can sit down and watch until you find one or two people you want to contact. " Credit: astrot / iStock / gettyimages credit card: fradan / iStock / gettyimages Advertisements 1. Choose your dress wisely. Don't let your dress be hostage. Life coach Erica McCarty suggests that comfortable dress is the most important thing. " "If before you leave the house, your whole outfit makes you tighten your pants, struggle to tie your braces, or feel too exposed, give up flashiness and choose clothes that make you feel great instead of convulsing all night," she said. Agreeing to your clothes can set the tone for how you feel when you're on holiday. In fact, she even suggests wearing a repetitive outfit at these parties to make sure you look and feel great. " When you put on a brand new suit for the first time, it may be hit or missed. Instead, choose a dress that you know feels great in, "she said.
2. To prepare for meaningful conversations
3. Show the positive side
4. When you drink too much, it's important to control your alcohol consumption. When we are nervous, it is easy to swallow the things before, which will lead to disastrous consequences. "
5. Whether you just need to take a break, or you bring someone who abandoned you to a party, people will pay attention to you, and at some point, you may stand alone. You may be tempted to reach for your phone. We've all been there, haven't we? Life coach Carly Rogers suggested: "if you need to pause, I'm not necessarily against it, but if you really want to be in the conversation, people will pay attention." You will attract people's attention. Through body language, you can send signals to them or them and let them come to talk with you. "If you're on the phone, you'll be able to tell people you don't want to talk to them without saying a word."
6. Strive for quality, not quantity, and make sure you don't put too much pressure on yourself to work in the room. You don't have to talk to everyone at a party, and you don't have to feel like you have to meet a quota for a certain number of conversations. "
7. In any social situation, there will be embarrassing situations. Maybe someone introduced you under the wrong name and you corrected it. Or you make a careful gesture and accidentally knock over someone's drink. Then there is always a good decompression fly. But when these things happen - and they happen all the time - they just laugh in embarrassment. "[people] are usually more connected in awkward and quiet moments at parties," Cook said. If you feel uncomfortable, say it. Probably someone will feel the same way as you. Like this, you will have a direct connection with someone, and all of a sudden, the conversation will no longer feel awkward. "After all, these imperfect moments are the building of friendships and the creation of memories." Are you embarrassed or anxious at the cocktail party? What tips do you have to keep confident? Tell us an interesting story about the holiday party you attended.
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